One Day at a Time

Hi there!  Remember me?  I know, it’s been months…I’ve missed you!  Life somehow has gotten in the way lately, and blogging has had to go to the back burner.  Or maybe off the stove completely.  I’m so humbled by those of you who have reached out to me….I don’t even know you, and you were worried about where I’d gone!  I’m still here…hanging on by a thread sometimes, but here.

I’d love to blame it on Flowertown Festival.  But in reality, I was super prepared this year, and did very little last-minute prep (usually I’m up late the whole month before doing last-minute inventory).  The festival weekend was beautiful and successful…and after a few rainy and slow years, it made me appreciate my crafty side of life again!  So…. if Flowertown isn’t why I went M.I.A……what happened?!?!In a nutshell, life has exploded.  I started working part-time for our church.  Y’all.  We LOVE our church.  Our faith has grown so much since becoming members, we’ve made an incredible tribe of friends and our kiddos are loving learning more and more about Jesus every day.  We found our place once we got involved.  Dave helps out with all things technology-wise and has an awesome group of Godly men that he meets with weekly.  And I have been helping out with curriculum and weekly logistics for the church’s kiddos for about 5 years now.  So I feel incredibly blessed to know officially be on staff and be even more involved with our church community.  They are doing great things in our little corner of the world, from feeding hundreds of people each week from our food truck to building an actual church building to allow more people to worship with us and learn about Christ.  And our kids’ ministry has exploded with over 100 kiddos in our program every. single. week.  Crazy!  And so exciting!The staff I work with is just incredible.  I’ve never been around such a creative, hilarious and Godly group of people…and I have the privilege of hanging out with them for a few hours each week.  I love my new job.  However, life with me working even for a few hours outside of the home each week has been a transition.  The hours I normally spent blogging and sewing have been re-dedicated to church stuff and meetings, so I’m learning how to structure my days….again.And let me tell ya, life didn’t slow down any to accommodate any of these changes.  Lincoln is a full-blown preschooler now {where did my chill toddler go?!?!}…with his own opinions on everything and a vocabulary that has exploded.  His little “certainly” and “you bet I am” quips keep me in stitches.  He runs, jumps, and climbs on everything he possibly can, but  doesn’t hesitate to pause for a snuggle.  The day before Easter he fell at the farm and busted his head open.  5 hours in the ER and 6 stitches and 8 staples later, he was a miniature Frankenstein….but back to his old self.  A week later, he got everything taken out and you’d never know about the gray hairs he caused me that week!Millie is finishing up kindergarten, and has absolutely blown me away with her reading skills.  This second half of the year something must have clicked because she has turned into quite the bookworm!  She pretty much has two modes…..dramatic and hilarious.  Everything is a big deal and possibly the end of the world.  So, she might as well talk in funny voices and do silly dances!  She is rounding out her school year with the first of many sleepovers and the start of gymnastics at the YMCA.Jayna blew through second grade this year…acing everything on her report card.  She was one of literally a handful of kids in her school that tested into the Gifted and Talented Education class for next year, and gets to attend the GATE summer program.  She’ll be doing chemistry, computer programming, and other STEM stuff for two weeks this summer.  Softball started late this spring and so we’ve been having 2 practices and 2 games a week.  Which would be fine except that swim team also has started 4 days a week so we pretty much live at the ball fields, at the pool and in the car every evening.  We have yet to master the art of carpooling (or family dinners, for that matter), but it’s moved to the top of my list because….well, something’s gotta give.  She and I have had some great mother-daughter dates this spring, including going to the Secret Keeper Girl Show.  If it ever comes to your town, I highly recommend it for your 7-10 year old….it’s a live Christian show that focuses on modesty.  It’s really well done and a really fun mother-daughter time!As for Dave and I, we have been in constant travel mode lately.  St. Mom Mom has come to corral the children a couple of times as Dave and I jet to conferences and business trips, with the occasional trip to Orlando as well!  We joined a few of our neighbors to head to Disney for the “Dark Side” Half Marathon….a Star Wars themed 10K and half marathon, which Dave ran two days in a row.  I am so proud of him-a 10K and then a half marathon the very next day!!  Then, all six of us headed to Universal Studios for a day of rides, Harry Potter and Butterbeer.  Although we love doing Disney with the kiddos….there is something to be said about that place during an all-adult weekend too!

So there you have it….a few things we’ve been up to the past couple of months.  We have a few more things up our sleeves, including a massive rearranging of the house.  More on that later! Thanks for checking in….I’ll be back soon!

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{From the Archives} DIY St. Patrick’s Day Bubblegum Necklace

I have a confession.  I have become an online shopper.  I say that like it’s taboo.  My thoughts immediately go to a childhood friend’s mother…who I would catch watching HSN in the middle of the night, phone and credit card in hand.  But I guess it isn’t strange at all nowadays…even downright thrifty, with the online coupons and daily deals sites.  I’m even an affiliate at zulily.com, Jane.com, and Pick Your Plum.  And let me tell you, it’s dangerous.  They have really cute stuff on there.  Stuff you didn’t know you wanted or needed.  And you better get it now, because it will be gone in the next five minutes and you will never see it again.  Ever.  But this marketing strategy has worked like a charm on me because I have purchased more items online this year then I have in stores for the past 5 years!

 One of the items I’m seeing over and over on these online sites is bubblegum necklaces for little girls.  They are big, chunky, brightly colored round beads that have patterns on them, and are hung close to the neck.  Like, a little girl version of the southern pearls.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

And online, these silly things are like $14.99.  Nope.  I figured there had to be a way to easily make them on my own.  And with St. Patrick’s Day coming up, it was the perfect excuse to make some bright green ones.  Lincoln will have his DIY Shamrock tee-shirt, and my girls will have their own Leprechaun Pearls {I’m officially coining that phrase…}

Leprechaun Pearls cost about $4 to make for a total of 4 DIY St. Patrick’s Day Necklaces {with many materials left over at the end too!}, and take about an hour and a half including baking time.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

You’ll need:

An old cutting board {that may get stained from the clay}
A sharp knife
A shallow dish {for rolling balls in glitter}
A jelly roll pan
Some ribbon or yarn
Some glitter
A paperclip
Parchment paper or foil to create and bake on
Sculpey Clay {or other oven bak clay} from craft stores

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

Your clay will come in packages that have four rectangles in them.  Cut those apart with your knife, and then divide each rectangle into four smaller pieces.  Each of the smaller pieces is how much clay you will use for one bead.

Roll the 4 small pieces into balls.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

If you want, divide the small pieces in half and combine two colors gently.  When you roll it into a ball it will create a marbleized effect.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

Roll some of your balls in the shallow dish of glitter.  Roll the ball with glitter in your hands again, so that the glitter is gently pushed into the clay {this will prevent a glittery mess each time your daughter wears her necklace}.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

So pretty!  If you are a little OCD like me, make sure you have enough of each design to create some pattern for your necklace.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

Open one end of your paper clip, and use it to poke a hole in each bead.  You want to move the paperclip around inside the hole to widen it enough for your ribbon/yarn to go through.  There shouldn’t be any hole shrinkage in the oven.  Spread all the beads out on foil on a jelly roll pan {a cookie sheet with edges}.

Bake for an hour at 275 degrees.  Let cool completely.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

Measure your ribbon around your daughter’s neck, and then add about 6 more inches to the length….you can always trim it after the beads are on.  Fold the ribbon in half to find the middle, and working your way from the middle, lace your beads.  I laid all mine out in order beforehand.  I highly recommend tying a knot in between each bead, to keep them in place.  Also, you may want to use a lighter to seal the ends of your ribbon to prevent fraying.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

And that’s it!  SO pretty!  The beads should be really hardy…my girls have dropped their necklaces several times and we haven’t had any breakage.

{Leprechaun Pearls} DIY St. Patrick's Day Bubblegum Necklaces

The project was a hit because even the little ones could do it {with a little help rolling into balls}.  The little boy next door even came over and just made “marbles” instead of beads.  Obviously, these will be choking hazards so keep ’em away from kids under 3!

We are excited to make more of these in different colors!
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17 Appropriate Consequences for Poor Behavior {and the Bible backs it up!}

It may not seem like it, but unfortunately, we are a family that yells.  Dave and I try to keep our cool, we try to “seek to understand” before losing said cool…but nine times out of ten, we end up yelling at the kiddos.  Hey, it happens right?  But our knee-jerk reaction to their mistakes is an automatic time-out, loss of privileges or the occasional spanking.  Very seldom do we take the time to stop and think about appropriate consequences that “fit the crime,” let alone scripture that backs it up.Crime LogoI find myself often searching online for creative, natural and appropriate consequences that can be backed up by scripture.  Not only do I want to correct the behavior, I want to give my kids the “why” as well.  So I found a couple of sites, in addition to some of the methods we use, to help create a little cheat for us parents.  Here are the other blogs that I found that had some good suggestions {please check them out!}:

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Confessions of a Homeschooler

Raising Arrows

Meaningful Mama

I can’t promise that I will keep my cool or always remember these scriptures.  But I figure if I have a go-to place where I can find appropriate consequences {that’s also Biblical} for a common childhood behavior, then hopefully it will be a teaching lesson as well as correct the behavior.

 Destruction of Property:
{Matthew 7:12 “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”}
Consequences: Clean up the mess, as well as doing chores for the person whose property was affected, earn money to pay for item

Arguing or Fighting with each other:
{2 Tim 2:24 “And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.”}
Consequence: Sitting face to face with each other, holding hands.  Apologize for harsh words, ask for forgiveness and come to a compromise on the argument.

Bragging:
{Proverbs 27:2Let someone else praise you, and not your own mouth;
    an outsider, and not your own lips.”}
Consequence: Apologize, and list 5 things for which they are thankful

Whining and Complaining:
{Phillipians 2:14 “Do everything without grumbling or arguing,” or Psalm 19:14 May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart
    be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”}
Consequence: Loss of privilege, having to be last in an activity or do extra work {depending on what they were whining about}, or list 5 things they are grateful for

Mean or Disrespectful Words:
{Ephesians 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”  Proverbs 21:23 Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity.”}
Consequence: Letter of apology, with kind words in it

Laziness:
{Deut 6:5 “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”}
Consequence: Start the task over again to complete

Lying or Deceit:
{1 Peter 3:10 Whoever would love life and see good days
must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech.”, Proverbs 17:4 A wicked person listens to deceitful lips; a liar pays attention to a destructive tongue.”}
Consequence: Letter of apology

Gossip:
{Proverbs 16:28 A perverse person stirs up conflict,
    and a gossip separates close friends.”}
Consequence: Apology and set things straight with people they gossiped to

Poor Manners/Decision Making:
{James 4:17 “If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.”}
Consequence:  extra work, do the right thing with an apology

Poor Self Control:
{Proverbs 16:32 Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.”}
Consequence: After calming down, apologize to those affected

Selfishness:
{Hebrews 13:16 “And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.”}
Consequence: List things they are grateful for, find items to donate, community service

Stealing:
{Ephesians 4:28 “Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need.“}
Consequence: Return items, additional work, write Bible verse

Tattle Tailing:
{Matthew 18:15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.”}
Consequence: Copy verse, they lose the item they were tattling about, apologize and use words to talk it out

Discontentment:
{1 Tim 6:6 “But godliness with contentment is great gain.” }
Consequence: List of things they are grateful for, loss of 1st world privilege {tv, toy, iPad}

Dirty Words/Cursing:
{Ephesians 5:4 “Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.”}
Consequence: cleaning

Disobedience:
{Ephesians 6:1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”}
Consequence: Proximity to parents, extra work/mundane tasks to practice obedience

Hitting/Physical Behavior:
{Titus 3:2 “to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone.”}
Consequence: Hugging, holding hands, along with an apology

I hope some of these ideas help your children to correct their behaviors, while also learning the importance of their actions.  If you have any other creative ideas for appropriate consequences as discipline, please share them in the comments!  Remember that these are just some ideas that I’ve compiled…be sure to adjust consequences depending on the severity of behavior, age of the child, and appropriateness in general.  Not every situation fits into a mold!

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Sunday Scripture: Work

I have a new job!  Well, really it’s nothing new….just “official” now.  For the past 5ish years I’ve been handling the curriculum and logistics for the kids’ ministry at my church.  I do all of the social media, compile all of the weekly lesson materials, and do the scheduling of all of our kids’ volunteers.  I love it!

When we first started going to our church, we just attended.  We loved the services, music, and general feel.  But it wasn’t home.  Yet.  But then, our pastor {who was one of our very good friends, and even married us}, kind of threw us into realms of volunteering.  At first, we resisted….Dave doing the technology piece {slides and such} during worship, and me helping out with the kids areas.  He didn’t really feel like being the IT guy for church when that’s kinda what he does all week.  And I was burned out from teaching and thought I wanted nothing to do with kiddos on Sundays.

But after a few weeks of settling in and then taking ownership of our new positions, we began to feel more connected with people in the church.  The senior worship staff, the band, the set-up crew.  And for me, I was getting to know kids and their families on a personal level each week.  The senior staff has done a fantastic job of making us feel like we are absolutely indispensable…which makes us even more responsive and responsible in our positions.Sunday Scripture: Work .... a new job and a familiar callingI don’t have a link for today’s Sunday Scripture…beautiful though, isn’t it?

And after 5 years of running the backside of the kids’ ministry team, I’ve finally decided to take on the role part time for the church as an “official” staff member.  My duties won’t change, although my workload will slowly increase as our ministry gets larger.  But now, I’m part of a team.  It’s been a long time {8 years!} since I’ve worked for someone else and been a part of a staff.  And although there are just 7 of us in the “official” capacity, I’m excited to be a part of the backbone of our awesome church!  #BetterTogetherSC

Have a blessed week!

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Sunday Scripture: Temple

“Your body is a temple.”

How many times have I heard this snibbet of a Bible Verse?  It’s sprinkled all over the Pre-Tween Christian parenting resources that I’ve been scouring recently…especially the ones on how to talk to our kids about their bodies and sex (Can you believe it’s almost “The Talk” time?!?!).  So, that’s what I associate that verse with.  Sexual morality and respecting our bodies.  But then, the rest of the verse….

“So glorify God in your body.”

In other words….

Sunday Scripture: Temple {How are you REALLY treating yourself?}

Sunday Scripture Image is from The Daniel Plan book

There are so many other ways to take care of this physical vessel God has given us.  And although I don’t usually do New Year Resolutions, the start of each year does make me contemplate what my priorities should be.  And this year, this verse really resonated with me.  Maybe it’s because I’m once again running a Biggest Loser Challenge on Facebook; my mind has been wrapped around creating nutritional and physical challenges, as well as motivational and accountability ideas for everyone participating.

If you’d like to join our challenge, head over to our Facebook page {Biggest Loser 2017} and request to join…we’ll get you all set up!  But hurry!  Registration ends tomorrow… Monday, January 9th! 

Sunday Scripture: Temple {How are you REALLY treating yourself?}

Sunday Scripture Image found on A Merry Life, but originally tagged from Peak 313

And now that my feet are healthy again, I’m back in full swing at Bootcamp.  Where the emphasis is strength, power and endurance.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m really hoping that the weight loss piece will also be in there.  But I’m ok with focusing on the long-game.  Now that I’m done having kids, and I’m getting closer to *ahem* middle age, I’m more concerned about keeping my body and mind as healthy as possible for the rest of my life.

Emphasis on “mind” as well.  I’m fully aware of how busy life is, and how thin I am constantly being stretched.  So part of this Sunday Scripture is also my reminder to take a break.  Do something that gives me joy.  Rest.  Take care of ALL of myself….so I can be a better servant to God, my husband and my kids.  Cuz we all know that if Mom’s down, the whole house is down!

Have a blessed week!

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A New Year’s Challenge!

Happy New Year!  Hope y’all had a wonderful holiday break.  We had a blast with a ton of family in town.  Then my parents took the kiddos for a few days so Dave and I could work on a few house projects.  And, I’m working on a special project this year that I’m really excited about….more on that later!

But, I just wanted to share with you that Dave and I are once again hosting a New Year’s Biggest Loser Challenge.  It’s open to EVERYONE!  And it’s only $25 to play.  There will be weekly challenges and motivation….I’d love for you to play along with us!  Here’s the link to sign up, we’ll be starting on January 9th!

Biggest Loser 2017 Challenge {Facebook Group}New Year's Biggest Loser Challenge 2017!  Join the challenge and make a change!And in case you need some other motivation or ideas, here’s the link to one of my most popular posts from when I WON a Biggest Loser Competition and lost over 30lbs in 15 weeks.  There’s some worksheets on there, and some of my diet and exercise examples.

Let’s start the new year out right and start making some changes!

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Christmas 2016

Merry Christmas from our family to yours!  I wish you a New Year full of joy, hope and peace!  See you next year!Merry Christmas Card 2016

Christmas Trees on the Square

We have thought about moving many, many times.  But when it comes down to it, our friends and our town are completely irreplaceable.  We live in a small town.  Not tiny, for sure…and definitely sprawling by the minute.  But it’s still a small town.  We have only lived here for 12 years, and yet we see people we know all day long when we are out and about.  I love that.  Even though I’m not so keen on the chit-chat, I like knowing my neighbors.  I like that my kids will “hang out” in areas where adults know them.  You know, eyes everywhere!A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.And as for the atmosphere of the town itself…couldn’t be more perfect.  You get off of the interstate and pass by the required Target, Cracker Barrel, and Lowes.  But drive another mile down the road, and you’re transported to a one horse town {with a lot more traffic….}  The center of “downtown” is called Hutchinson Square.  It’s a little park surrounded by an old fashioned theatre, Mom & Pop shops, antiques and coffee shops.  At one end is the railroad tracks, at the other is Town Hall, with a big Christmas Tree in front.A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.In addition to weekly Farmer’s Markets, Third Thursday {wine, shopping and entertainment}, and seasonal parades, there is a huge Christmas party to celebrate the lighting of the town Christmas tree.  And the other “Christmas Trees” that surround the park, sponsored by local groups and businesses.A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.I put that in quotations because some of these groups get very creative in their interpretations of a Christmas tree!A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.F3 and FIA are two workout groups that are huge in our town.  Dave is one of the leaders of F3 {the guys version}…they work out, hang out, and pray together-for free.  Daily.  In multiple locations.  It is by far the best thing that has happened for Dave in a long time.  Not only is he healthier and stronger, but this group of guys has provided him the Christian fellowship that has made him such a great role model in our house and in our community.  F3’s tree is a great representation of their group,  They work out with very little equipment….mostly tires, cinder blocks and telephone poles!  And every guy that shows up for a workout gets a nickname.  Dave is “Picasso.”A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square.A tour of our town's Christmas Trees on the Square. Hope you enjoyed taking a little tour of our Christmas Trees on the Square!

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Thank You for Bedtime

I’m not really sure how we fell into the pattern, but when we are both home and available, my husband and I divvy up the bedtime routines.  And somehow, he usually ends up putting the girls {who are 5 and 7} to bed, while I put “the baby” {who is 2} down.

I’m sure our little system started back when I was ginormously pregnant and physically unable to lean over the bathtub to bathe the girls.  Or maybe when I was constantly nursing a newborn, trying to convince him to sleep in his nursery while his sisters giggled next door with their daddy.  Either way, somehow the tradition has stuck that Mama puts “the baby” down.

I know, I know.  He’s hardly a baby anymore.  He’s just about two and a half now, and almost as verbal as my 7 year old.  He’s potty trained, knows all of his letters, and goes to pre-school three days a week.  Let’s face it…he’s well on his way to being a little kid.

But.  He’ll always be my baby.  I mean, all three of them will always be my babies…but he is my final baby.  Admitting that is hard for me to do.  Although I panic at the thought of being pregnant again or having to start all over, I also envy the tiny snores and sweet baby toes that my new mama friends still get to enjoy.  I’ll always be up for snuggling the closest available baby, but I fully recognize that it won’t be my own.  And as ready as I am for the next phase of my family life, I tear up  even as I type this.Dear Husband, thank you for bedtime. #motherhood #parenting #baby #children #finalchild And so, I’d like to thank my husband.  My better half.  My baby-daddy.  For letting me have bedtime.  For letting me completely coddle that almost-two-and-a-half year old for awhile each night.  For letting me read him too many stories, sing him too many songs and then turning out the light and just rocking him for a few more minutes.  I cherish those little moments.  And he loves them too…I know this because I never have to coax him up into my lap or to even turn around and lay his sweet head down on my chest.

During the day, I’m your average mommy….often annoyed at his two-year-old antics.  I don’t use baby talk with him, I encourage him to clean up after himself, and  give him choices to encourage his independence.  Soon we’ll be fighting over dirty clothes on the floor and unfinished homework.   But for now, after bath time, he gets my undivided attention and the chance to be a complete “Mama’s boy.”  And because his daddy is willing to put “the big girls” to bed every night, I get to soak up a few more precious moments with “my baby.”

Thank you dear husband, for bedtime.

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Sunday Scripture: Christmas Peace

We are officially in the countdown to Christmas…according to the numerous Advent calendars dotting the walls of my house.  And even though it’s a time of celebration, family and tradition, it also carries a lot of pressure and stress with it.  For those who have lost loved ones, it’s a difficult time full of memories.  And for those that celebrate the holidays with a happy heart, there is still *everything* that needs to be done.5daa855867fe9b4beb474de75b2cc912Sunday Scripture image courtesy of Nicki Koziarz

Decorating, shopping, cooking, planning, creating, shopping, Christmas cards, cookie swaps, class parties, picking out a tree, Advent, ornaments, wrapping, Eggnog, reindeer, Elves on Shelves, visiting Santa, holiday lights, church, Christmas outfits, shopping, eating, cleaning, hosting….

Can we all just agree not to judge each other?  That way, maybe we can take a breath, relax, and just enjoy the blessings that come with Christmas.

Have a blessed week!

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